So............There is a lot of ways where society can play their role in child abuse prevention

TOGETHER WE PREVENT CHILD ABUSE.............

WE CAN DO SOMETHING FOR CHILDREN.............

Encourage Society Awareness

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This is the fifth part from a series of features on social issues, focussing on children. KUALA LUMPUR - There were 819 reported cases of child abuse nationwide in the period of January-April this year, according to the Social Welfare Department's (JKM) statistics. Of these cases, 549 involved girls and the rest, boys. Selangor recorded the highest number of cases at 320 followed by Perak (91) and Kuala Lumpur Federal Territory at 79. Based on the statistics for 2007 and 2008, Selangor was the state that recorded the highest number of child abuse cases in the country. The state recorded 816 of such cases in 2007 and 949 in 2008. Kuala Lumpur Federal Territory was second at 444 and 595 cases for 2007 and 2008 respectively. "The number of abuse cases in the Klang Valley is high, partly due to the big population size and stress. "Furthermore, the society is now more aware of its social responsibility to report such cases," JKM's Director (Children) Nor Amni Yusoff told Bernama in an interview held at Menara Tun Ismail here recently. Various means Nor Amni said the public can used the various means to report child abuse cases. They can do it by calling the hotline 'Talian Nur 15999' or send e-mails and letters. She said close to 90% of the abuse reports received by JKM came via the Talian Nur hotline launched by the Women and Family Development Ministry in December 2007. The effectiveness of this Talian Nur can be seen from the drastic increase in the number of reported abuse cases. Nor Amni said there was a jump of 501 reported abuse cases from 2,297 in 2007 to 2,780 cases last year. In comparison, there was only an increase of 280 cases from 2006 to 207. "We have held large scale publicity on this Talian Nur. This hotline is in four languages -- Malay, English, Tamil and Mandarin. Apart from acting on reports lodged, this hotline also handles enquiries about the ministry. "Talian Nur operates round-the-clock and is handled by a company trained by the ministry. It receives reports on abuse cases apart from enquiries on the ministry. "For calls on information, the operator would provide the required information but if the call is on abuse, then the caller would be referred to the respective JKM officer," she said. Immediate action According to Nor Amni, upon receiving a report on an abuse case, the JKM officer would act within one hour to ensure that the child is immediately rescued. "However, at times our people were unable to act as the information given was incomplete particularly the location of the home (address). There were also instances of false reports," she said. JKM would however investigate each of the reports lodged. At least for the false alarms, the parents would know that the society's eyes and ears were on the safety of their children, she said, adding that for some abuse cases, the JKM officer or child protector would be accompanied by officers from other agencies and the police. The rescued children would be sent to the hospital for a medical examination and the doctor's report on the case. "We want to know whether the abuse is dangerous or the otherwise. If it is dangerous, we would lodge a police report," she said. Apart from Talian Nur, the public can also use the Teledera (1-800-88-3040) hotline to lodge reports on child abuse cases. However the number of reports lodged via this hotline was small. Teledera operates during the office hours. After these hours, the Red Crescent Society takes over and any report that ensues would be referred to the JKM. Now and forever The abuse of children is not something new in this country. In the past, these cases went unreported as the society saw it as a way to discipline the child. Nor Amni said the society then was more tolerable on such cases as the abuse at that time was not as bad as that committed today. "Before, the parents were not under tremendous pressure as that they experience now. To me stress plays a crucial role in the abuse of children now where the pressure on life is real heavy. "Now most of the parents are working, there is no family support. Now we have more small families. Before we used to have more big families. Our children can be taken care by our relatives or their grandparents who live together with them. "Before, people do not lodge reports because not only they did not care but also not to tarnish the family honour rather than giving priority to the interest of the victims. "There were mothers who knew but refrained from lodging reports as they were unemployed and if their husbands go to jail who would support the family? That was the previous situation. Now the mothers are better off and they are not willing to see the daughters becoming sex slaves for their fathers," she said, adding that incest cases in the country involved all races. Child Act 2001 For the abuse cases, particularly the physical abuse cases, the JKM can take legal action against the parents under the Child Act 2001. However the department had, so far, not taken action to punish the parents as it wants to provide the opportunity for them to be rehabilitated through a counselling programme. "For abuse cases, we try not to punish the perpetrators. Parents do not simply abuse their children, but the stress from the surrounding environment pushed them to lose their patience. In some of the abuse cases, the children were also responsible. "For parents who do not know how to deal with the situation, they would easily lose their patience particularly if the child is hyperactive or disabled", said Nor Amni. She said JKM would continue to monitor the parents even though a particular abuse case was closed. For the abused child who needs to be separated from their parents, the child would be placed with a foster family or an institution of the JKM usually for three years. "If we find that the parents, after attending counselling, can have their child back, then we can shorten the period of the child's stay at our institution. "However if the parents remained unchanged even after the three years, we would go back to the court to ask for extension and there were cases where the child reached 18 years old, " said Nor Amni. She said there were cases where the parents could not be traced after three years, forcing the child to stay at the institution until the person is 18 years old. Child's rights Each of JKM's policies and programmes is designed to protect the rights of all children in Malaysia. According to Nor Amni, this is in line with the United Nations' Convention of The Rights of The Child (CRC). She said under this convention, the child has four rights -- the right to live, the right for protection, the right to participation and the right for development. Nor Amni said Malaysia signed the CRC in 1995 and needs to ensure that all provisions under the convention are adhered to. Hence the society needs to improve their role as the welfare of children is a joint responsibility. "As members of the society, we cannot run away from this responsibility . The child is not other people's but also ours. We should think that all of the children are our children. We must lodge reports on child abuse. "We hope more would come forward to give their cooperation and perform their responsibility for the sake of the children's future'.

Article for child abuse in Malaysia

Child Abuse Cases in Malaysia

Child abuse can be defined as intended or unintended harm to a child by another person who may be parents, relatives or guardians. There are four major categories which are physical abuse, neglect, sexual abuse and emotional abuse.

The cases in Malaysia are getting serious; according to Social Welfare Department of Malaysia indicated each year at least 1,000 children in Malaysia are reported as victims. With high statistics of child abuse, children rights are taken away and children also loose the opportunity to live healthy and happily.

It is a repulsive issue for the society and it would affect the image of the country. Furthermore, it is a big problem with a serious impact on the child's physical and mental health, well-being and development throughout their lives. Children should have the human rights of live free from violence, harm and exploitation.

Nowadays, government have organized Child abuse prevention campaign which help the them escape from abuse and also educate the public to love the children. Children are the hope in the future of the country and the well-being of children is very important.

There are few organization which included Protect and care the children (P.S the children), Malaysian Pediatric Association (MPA), Social Welfare Department of Malaysia, The Women's Aid Organization (WAO) and The United Nations Children's Fund (UNICEF). These few organization is playing important roles to protect the children; in addition they always concern about the issues of child abuse and try their best to give the best life for the children. Children are future leader in our country and they are innocent and have right or opportunity to stay healthy and happily.

Wealth Mastery Academy are now launching new courses which is IMM (Internet Marketing Mastery) on 08 January 2010. p/s: lets we think and try to find the solution for this problem. why do children have to suffer while they are still in the young age. why do people keeps lets this thing happened. stop writing or talking put your pen down and think to this problem.

Ways to overcome this problem

Teach your children the difference between acceptable and unacceptable touching, and to trust their instincts about people. Educate yourself about the signs of abuse so you'll be able to detect it.

Things You'll Need:

• Yellow Pages
• Telephones
• Therapists

1. 1

   Understand that "child abuse" means any kind of harm done to a child and does not just mean sexual abuse.

2. 2

   Teach your children that there is a difference between "good" and "bad" touches. Explain what these are.

3. 3

   Explain that no one has the right to hurt your child or touch him or her in private areas or touch in anyway that makes him or her feel uncomfortable.

4. 4

   Tell your children that the words they need to remember are No, Go, Yell, Tell. If anyone touches them in a way they don't like or tries to get them to go with a stranger or person they don't feel comfortable with they should always say "No!" and ...

5. 5

   Go away from the person or situation as quickly as possible.

6. 6

   Use their danger voice to yell. A danger voice is a very loud, low-pitched yell, that gets attention immediately. It is not a high-pitched screech. It should never be used in any other situation.

7. 7

   Tell a parent, teacher or caregiver immediately about what happened.

8. 8

   Help your children understand that they need to be wary not just of the traditional idea of "strangers" but of anyone who makes them feel uncomfortable, even if it is someone they know - like the next-door neighbor.

9. 9

   Talk to your children about situations they must avoid, like taking any food or medicine from a person who is not a parent, teacher, caregiver or close friend. Help them understand how to identify a police officer. Take them to the local police station and let them see what a uniform looks like and what a badge looks like.

10. 10

    Show your children how to make a collect call to home and how to call 911.

11. 11

    Learn what the signs of abuse are so that you will notice if something is going on with your child. Look for bruises, burns, bloody or missing underwear, difficulty with bowel movements or urination, problems with walking or sitting, behavior problems, inappropriate sexual behavior, sore genitals or anything that just makes you feel there is something amiss.

12. 12

    Get help from the police, social services department or through a child abuse hotline if you suspect there is a problem.

    
    

    this is some advice for parents who does not know how to protect their children while they are at work.

Be a nurturing parent.

Children need to know that they are special, loved and capable of following their dreams.

Help a friend, neighbor or relative.

Being a parent isn’t easy. Offer a helping hand take care of the children, so the

parent(s) can rest or spend time together.

Help yourself.

When the big and little problems of your everyday life pile up to the point you feel

overwhelmed and out of control – take time out. Don’t take it out on your kid.

If your baby cries…

It can be frustrating to hear your baby cry. Learn what to do if your baby won’t stop

crying. Never shake a baby – shaking a child may result in severe injury or death.

 Get involved.

Ask your community leaders, clergy, library and schools to develop services to meet the

needs of healthy children and families.

Help to develop parenting resources at your local library.

Promote programs in school.

Teaching children, parents and teachers prevention strategies can help to keep children

safe.

Monitor your child’s television and video viewing.

Watching violent films and TV programs can harm young children.

Volunteer at a local child abuse prevention program.

Encourage Society Awareness

What is needed?

• Reporting mechanisms and accountability - Oftentimes, victims do not report abuse because the authorities or authority figures are the abusers. There is a vacuum of accountability and justice due to a fear of reprisals from their attackers and/or local authorities. In the rare case where children feel safe enough to come forward with reports of abuse, the protective guardians (parents, community members) often don’t know where they can go for help or how to address the injustice.
• Legal standards and consequences-Abuse occurs at the hands of different types of offenders and, depending on age, circumstance and severity of abuse, must be dealt with through varying means ranging from intensive therapy to long-term incarceration. Perpetrators must be held accountable for acts of sexual abuse and rape, though the issue of cultural competency must be considered, as well as sensitivity towards the victims. However, populations generally know very little about offenders or how to manage them appropriately and adequately. In some countries, attackers are vindicated and the crime is considered nullified as long as they marry the victim. This practice is an unacceptable and outrageous violation of human rights that should be addressed through countries’ legal, judicial and relevant indigenous mechanisms. In parts of Africa, a societal misunderstanding of abuse exists and reports of abuse rarely make it to any type of authority. A rape counselor at a clinic in Sierra Leone explained that parents tend to blame the children for the abuse. "They beat them first to get an explanation of what happened, and then again as punishment."Societal norms against child sexual abuse and support for some type of justice mechanism are necessary so that perpetrators are made fully aware of the gravity of the crime and know that consequences will follow.
• Protection for susceptible children and prioritizing prevention- Programming for support of orphans and street children are important to protect them from exploitation. Children need protection, vocational training and empowerment in order to avoid abuse. Community centers and safe houses could help with this dimension. Also, these highly vulnerable children need to have a trustworthy, effective outlet in order to report abuse and receive the help they need to cope with the trauma.
• Protection for victims of abuse - Victims’ security must be guaranteed in order to ensure that they are able to seek medical attention and justice without fear of reprisals from the perpetrator or local authorities or stigmatization from their communities.
• Community-based, culturally sensitive programming - Community based educational programming that addresses the stigma of rape and sexual abuse are imperative in order to encourage victims to come forward and receive help and the emotional support they need from their families and communities. Communities must be made aware of options of recourse and how to address the issue with sensitivity. Outreach, training and education directed towards the community, service providers and parents is an essential component as well so that children can feel safe in reporting abuse to an adult that will listen and take the appropriate action. Organizations such as Stop the Silence work in this arena.

Is this Humanity

Wednesday July 28, 2010

Man held over abuse of baby girl

By MARTIN CARVALHO and ALLISON LAI
malacca@thestar.com.my

MALACCA: Police have arrested a man in his 20s over the abuse of an eight-month-old girl rescued by welfare officers two days ago. The suspect is the lover of the baby’s 28-year-old mother. He was picked up at the Malacca Hospital at about 11am yesterday when he came to visit the victim.State CID chief ACP Mohd Adnan Abdullah said the arrest was made shortly after a report was lodged yesterday by a police officer for alleged child abuse. The alleged abuse is believed to have taken place on Sunday. A babysitter staying nearby saw the baby’s condition the next day and informed her husband, who alerted the welfare authorities. The baby had cane marks and bruises on her head, face and legs.The baby’s mother has four other children, aged two to seven. They will be sent to hospital to determine if they had also been abused. State Youth, Sports and Welfare Committee chairman Datuk Abd Karim Sulaiman said a court order was obtained for welfare officers to take temporary custody of all five children pending investigations. Abd Karim said welfare authorities would also carry out an evaluation to determine if the mother was capable of caring for her children. The mother from Pontian in Johor is said to have been separated from her husband and moved to Malacca with her lover about a month ago

This is an article taken from The Star July 28.

News paper articles

Firstly, before i begin with the new post, i would like to comment on Ratcha's point. I totally agree with the stereotype thinking. However, not only boyfriend though. The same goes with father too. A child, especially girl usually think that the father is the hero in a family. He should protect and guide the family. This is because they get influenced by fairy tales. So when the father physically abuse or even sexually abuse the child, she doesnt know that her father is actually wrong. They keep quite and the scenario keeps on and on.

I found some interesting articles in the newspaper that support all three of our points which are improve parenting skills, increase government involvement and encourage society awareness.

PROTECTING THE CHILD

March 2, 2010, New Straits Times

More importantly, children need to be educated on their rights.”

What are the factors behind child abuse?

“It depends on the type of abuse. Physical abuse, for instance, may take place due to poor parenting skills or high levels of stress.

A parent or a caretaker may be unable to deal with a baby who cries non-stop. There have been a few cases of heartless adults who enjoy abusing children. Sexual abuse is the work of sick individuals. The only way to prevent this type of abuse is to allow no opportunity for it to take place. That is why it is important to teach children about their bodies and how to retaliate when someone violates them. Emotional abuse, on the other hand, is more complex as the signs are not apparent. Such abuse includes verbal abuse. Whatever the nature of abuse, the only way to stop it is to change the way society perceives children. Children are persons in their own rights. They are not merely objects.

For instance, we don’t hit another adult but many parents hit their children as they regard their children as their possession. Some parents say they beat their children to discipline them but research has proven that this is ineffective. You might get the desired effect immediately but the negative effects last a long time. It teaches children that it is okay to hurt other people. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse and it is so easy to cross it.”

What should a child do should he/she be abused?

“Inform a trusted adult such as a parent, teacher, counsellor or religious figure. The adult should immediately act upon the complaint no matter how minor it is.”

Are there any laws to protect children against abuse in Malaysia?

“Malaysia ratified the United Nation’s Convention on the Rights of the Child in 1995 (CRC) and by doing so has agreed to place children’s rights as paramount consideration.

What can we do to help those who are abused?

“There are a number of NGOs which provide support for the abused — Women’s Aid Organisation and PS the Children, to name a few. I am sure they would welcome volunteers. However, it is more important to ensure that professional counselling is given to the victims. Counselling should also be given to the offender to ensure that he/she does not repeat the offence.”

What can society do to combat child abuse?

“Respect children as individuals with rights.” If adults understand and accept this, abuse against children may decrease. They must also be vigilant. The phrase “jangan jaga tepi kain orang” does not augur well for child protection. If you suspect anything amiss, ask what is happening.

Lastly, be supportive. Neighbours should look out for the children in their neighbourhood. The recent death of the three-year-old who was kicked, stomped and brutally beaten could have been prevented had family members and neighbours raised the alarm.

REPORT CHILD ABUSE OR FACE LAW

March 6, 2010, New Straits times

Under the Child Act, parents and family members, childcare providers and medical practitioners must immediately report children suspected to be physically or emotionally injured as a result of being ill-treated, neglected, abandoned or exposed, or are sexually abused. Should they fail to report such cases, they can be fined a maximum of RM5,000 or jailed not more than two years or both. Teachers, counsellors and the public should also report cases of abuse to the authorities although they are not required to do so.

Shahrizat acknowledged that the law had not been strictly enforced, with no one being charged so far. She wanted the law to cover others as well, such as teachers. "Children, especially students, spend most of their time in school, so perhaps they (teachers) should also be governed by the same provisions under the law."

"We can take the child (victims of abuse) into our care but it is up to the police to go after those who did not report the abuse although they are required by law to do so," she said later when visiting the Taman Sinar Harapan children's home at Bukit Besar here.

footnote by Hanis: if everyone practice "jaga tepi kain sendiri", many and many children get abuse and the abuser gets away. There are many NGO in Malaysia that gives support for the abuse so make used of them. Teachers are also responsible to report any changes in the children even though they are not being paid for that purpose. Do we need to pay salary just to report an abused child? Where are our humanity?

Encourage Society Awareness

The role of society, in regards to child abuse, is key to prevention. Our society, as a whole, must make some changes. New and stronger laws must be implemented, while some of the older laws must be reformed in order to bring about change.

There are several areas of change that I would like to highlight in this article. The first being how our society views men and women in general. From the time a child enters Kindergarten, they do role playing. The boys get ready and leave for work and the girls stay at home and take care of the house. Another viewpoint is that the boys feel they must be the prince or the rescuer while the girl is the one that needs rescuing from a prince. Many movies portray this role playing as well. Cinderella had a prince that rescued her. Snow White needed a prince to save her. The list for this type of role playing goes on and on.

As children grow, they take what our society has taught them and begin to think using those ideals. It is my opinion that it is stereotypical thinking and believing. The boys, according to our society, are supposed to be big and strong and able to rescue. The girls are supposed to be overwhelmed with the fact that the boys can do the rescuing. I think Mulan is the first movie I remember that doesn’t have this stereotypical reasoning behind it. Instead, Mulan is an independent soul. However, at the end of the movie, the boy she likes comes to her house and she is smitten, as are her mother and grandmother. Interestingly, she dressed as a man. However, she did the rescuing. It was a refreshing change.

In high school, those same children listed above begin to act out what they learned when they were much younger. The girls look for boys that can save them or rescue them. They look for their prince charming. The boys take on a serious role of being the provider and rescuer. This is where abuse begins, in my opinion. The boys may mistakenly think that they are the superior person, because they are boys, and begin to treat their girlfriends as inferior. This is where the abuse begins. The girls may be confused as to their role in the relationship. They may think they are stuck in that type of relationship because that is how they grew up thinking.

How is our society supposed to bring about change? Where does it all begin? I believe that children, early on, need to be taught to respect everyone, regardless of gender. Boys should respect girls and vice-versa. There is no person superior over another in regards to relationships. Relationships should be about equality on both sides. If children are taught, from Kindergarten on, to respect everyone else, that thinking would hopefully remain with the children throughout their life. In high school, it is also about respect. It’s about boys and girls having equality and respect for each other.

Our society must educate everyone on the issues of abuse. It needs to start at a young age. One idea would be that children in elementary school are given role models to follow that mirror respect for all people. They should also be taught that no one is to hit another person or practice name calling. An idea for our high school students might be to address them through assemblies. Guest speakers could come into the schools and talk to the students about equality and respect. There should also be times set aside to bring in women, or men, that have experienced abuse and now share their stories to educate others.

parenting skills: listen to your child

As an adult, we have our own ego. Ego to admit mistakes, to ask for help, to accept other people opinion, to make fool of ourself, to say thank you, to say sorry, to cry out loud and even to listen to someone. However, as parents, we should put aside our ego and try to listen to our child.

Listen to their opinion, their own thoughts, their feelings and listen to what they want. Listening doesnt mean agreeing. You can listen to them but that doesnt mean you have to agree on everything they want. Just give them the chance to express it out loud. Dont ever shut you child in the middle of a conversation. For example,

child: "Mom, i want to go to the zoo because..."

mom: "NO!"

Dont interrupt and shut them off like that. Give them the chance to finish up their sentence. In this way they dont feel so unappreciated and left out. Moreover, give them good reason and put it in a nice sentence.

child: "Mom, i want to go to the zoo because my teacher told me to take a picture of a monkey."

mom: "i'm sorry honey, but you cant. You got fever remember?"

In the first situation, the child will be angry with your answer and they will tend to rebel by crying non stop or yelling at you. They will pull a face infont of you and start to refuse eating or listen to you. This is because you dont listen to them! In consequence, you will be angry and start using physical involvement excessively. That simple situation can cause child abuse, so start listen to your child. It wont kill you.

Every word are belong to me, Hanis.

parenting skills: conduct good communication

Communication is very important as it bond relationship between people. This include communication among families. Gaps in age cause misunderstanding between parents and child. This is due to the era of generation. Parents are a bit older and they grow up during the era of 60's or 50's, whereas children is from the millennium era. So, the way of expressing feelings through words is misused from both side.

Children are more rebel nowadays. They tend to use harsh words to express their feelings. Due to this situation, parents have to adapt with the changes and dont take it seriously. Do understand that they are influence by media and other culture. Children dont even meant what they say. Their anger and the attitude of ignorance conquers them. For example, parents did not let their child went to a party, the child got upset and start to rebel to express their anger. Just because they dont know how, they tend to use harsh words. "I hate you mom!" or maybe even worse.

Moreover, parents should also use straight forward meaning in advising them. Dont use such metaphor and intended meaning to say, "Dont come back home late after 8". See, it is easy to understand when the message is said very clearly. While, unsaid meaning could make the children confuse. "Dont be late!" Children does not know what time is it precisely is late? 12? 1? 2? When the children disobeyed, they get scolded without even realize that parents them selves does not communicate clearly. They did not deliver their message precisely, how would they know. They are just kids after all.

Other than that, when requesting something such as help, wish or anything from your child, use polite sentence. Just because yo have authority in the house, dont just simply yell to them to tell them what to do. For example, "Can you please keep quite? i'm working here", "Please help me run to the store for a while, will you?", "Help me to look after your sister this weekend okay?". Its like asking a question but without wanting the answer as the answer will be a definite YES. By asking them, it shows that you care about how they feel, you are concerning their choice and giving them options. In this way, your children does not feel burdened as a servant. If you did in the opposite way, they children will start to question you back. For instance, "Why should i?". "Do i have to?", "Who are you to tell me what to do?" or even "So?". This kind of answer will challenge your ego as parents and that will cause fight abusively.

Thus, treat them as an adult, adapt with the new environment and choose the right way to say as good communication can curb child abuse.

every words are belong to me, Hanis.

parenting skills: take time for your self

Child abuse can occur when the parents is tired of everything. Their body and mind is restless, especially in this hectic life. The business at work place, the traffic jam and the expectations need to fulfill in the job field. Moreover, when they get back home, they still can get a piece of rest as they have to cook, they have children to take care of, help them with their homework and even until iron their school uniform for the next morning! These routines keep spinning on and on everyday. The boredom of doing the same routine make body feels tired and mind too. When body get tired, it needs rest. If it has not enough rest, it will function uncontrolled. The same goes with mind.

Therefore, take some time for one self. Run away for a while. Go on a vacation and escape the routine. For example, go to an island somewhere away from people and have a sweet time for yourself. Go outstation or somewhere peaceful and more quite. Other than that, get away from the norms in life and do something unexpected. Do bunjee jumping or hiking, or even scuba diving. Do something that is a lot different than the normal routine. Besides that, if you have a limited time, just take a break for a while. For ladies, go to spa or saloon to have manicure, body massage or do a make over. Perhaps with new look, you will get a new aura.

In conclusion, refresh your self. Because after all, its your life what it counts and what matters most is, your condition affect your actions toward your children. So, dont neglect yourself.

Every word are belong to me, Hanis.

the outline

I will be discussing on the first solution which is improve parenting skills.

Ismadi will be discussing on the second point which is increase government involvement.

Lastly, Ratcha will be discussing on the third solution which is encourage society awareness.

group members, please do your part.

thank you. :)

parenting skills: act as the leader

In a flight, the pilot and the co-pilot plays a big role to make sure the flight went smooth without any incidents and assure the flight reach the destination. Similarly, mother and father is the pilot and co-pilot in a family. In a family, parents play an important role to make sure the whole family does not breakdown and make sure the family live happily ever after. Aware or not, want or not, every parent is the leader in a family. When they become parents, they immediately become leaders.

However, living in this era of globalization, there are a lot of challenges. As an adult, they felt the tension even more. Children needs, economic demands, works problem and everything is in their head. Thus, these kind of things effect their emotion and decision wise. They tend to be depressed and cant think the right way. They do not know how to deal with their emotion. Due to that reason, they put the blame on their child and make them the place to release their anger instead.

That is one factor that cause child abuse. So, in order to curb the situation, firstly, parents have to take one step back and look at them selves. They are lacking in parenting skills. To manage a good family organization, they must have organized and disciplined followers. To have organized and disciplined followers, they must have a good leader. To be a good leader, the leader must have a good leadership.

To have good leadership and eventually have a good and happy family, the parents should be:

• optimist. person that see the glass "half full'.
• able to focus on important things.
• care about others.
• demonstrate good manners.
• confident in every step.
• good in solving problem.
• encouraging.

Enhance parenting skills and act as a good leader and eventually, child abuse can be curb.

every word are belong to me, Hanis.

PLEASE WATCH........

.............Child abuse is more than bruises or broken bones. While physical abuse is shocking due to the scars it leaves, not all child abuse is as obvious. Ignoring children’s needs, putting them in unsupervised, dangerous situations, or making a child feel worthless or stupid are also child abuse. Regardless of the type of child abuse, the result is serious emotional harm

Online news about child abuse

INTERVIEW KUALA LUMPUR:A few weeks ago, a four-year-old girl was reported to have been molested by a man ten times older than she.

The culprit was supposed to be taking care of her in her mother’s absence.

Malaysians have become familiar with stories of this kind in recent years; they no longer shock us as much as they used to.

Although no official statistics have been released, the claims by researchers and social workers are nevertheless staggering: it is estimated that one in every four Malaysians has been the victim of child sexual abuse.

Although the problem has been much exposed and discussed, many people still think of child sex offenders as dirty, suspicious-looking strangers.

Nothing could be further from the truth, according to Protect and Save the Children (PSC), a Malaysian NGO. It says nine of every ten child sex offenders are not only known, but also trusted and even loved by the victims.

WHAT IS CHILD ABUSE

Child abuse is the physical, sexual or emotional mistreatment of children. In the United States, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) define child maltreatment as any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. Most child abuse occurs in a child's home, with a smaller amount occurring in the organizations, schools or communities the child interacts with. There are four major categories of child abuse: neglect, physical abuse, psychological/emotional abuse, and child sexual abuse.

Different jurisdictions have developed their own definitions of what constitutes child abuse for the purposes of removing a child from his/her family and/or prosecuting a criminal charge. According to the Journal of Child Abuse and Neglect, child abuse is "any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation, an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm".

just for an introduction of the topic

Definition of child abuse.

We are not discussing on the definition of child abuse. But just for an introductory and before we discuss the solution of it, the general definition of child abuse is:

"Child abuse is any action (or lack of) which endangers or impairs a child’s physical, mental or emotional health and development."

There are many types of child abuse and different specific definition for each of it such as physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse and neglect. Click on this link to know more on each definition for each type of child abuse. Extra information wont kill you.

However, for the solutions and ways to curb it, we as a group going to see it from one general perspective which is child abuse. There might be certain solution for particular abuse but basically, we'll try to come out with the solution in general so that all kind of abuses can be curb.

hello people.

i assume someone is reading this.

welcome notes from hanismanis:

this is a discussion project for our SKPD1033 English for Social Sciences class.

the issues we are going to discuss is CHILD ABUSE and the topic is

Solutions to curb child abuse.

the objectives of this discussion are:

• Why do child abuse still occurs nowadays?
• What other ways to curb the problem?
• How can the family, society and government helps?
• What improvement can be done to the suggested ways by government?

there are three of us in this group which are;

Hanis Manis

Ratcha

Ismadi

you guys are welcome to share your thoughts and comments.

till then, adios amigos.

welcome notes from Ratcha:

Hi........m RATCHA...one of the group members for this discussion.As stated above,we going to discuss about child abuse....pls follow-up to listen our discussion via this blog regarding child abuse....Togather we curb child abuse......bubye....


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